Responsibility and choice

I spent half the day at the hospital today, even though I really didn’t want to go 😔 I had to explain everything in Spanish — a language I don’t fully understand: what had happened, and I kept running into confusion, difficulty, awkwardness. I could have ignored it, put it off, pretended it would go away. But I went anyway.

We psychologists often say that you can’t control everything. And that’s true: we can’t control what goes on around us — other people, circumstances, world events 🌍 But there’s another side. What we can influence.

For example, I keep working at a job I don’t love, telling myself that circumstances are in the way of finding another. That “it’s not the right time”, “it won’t work out”, “I just need to hang on”. And somewhere inside I know: it’s not only the external situation. It’s also my choice to stay where everything in me has long been saying no.

I can spend years ignoring chronic stress, fatigue, and what my body is telling me, telling myself “that’s just how it is” or “I don’t have time for that”. I can keep living under strain and call it having no way out 😣

We often wait for a rescuer. For someone to fix everything: life will change, inspiration will appear, things will get easier ✨ That “it’ll sort itself out” — and then we’re disappointed when it doesn’t.

Responsibility is an honest look at how things actually are 🪞 Without rose-tinted glasses, without “how it should be”, without the usual “I can’t do anything”. When I stop running from reality, I finally get a chance to see what I really need — rest, support, freedom, a different job, different relationships 🤍

Then the question “why is this happening to me?” slowly turns into “what can I do from here, from this point?”. Acceptance becomes the starting line. From there you can build different choices, different habits, a different life — step by step 🌱